Ughhhh, love. Here we go. I knew this subject was coming. Jonathan talked about it at the last Refuge sooo.. I am going to write on it. I'm going to be honest with you guys- I hate talking about love. I have a major commitment issue. Actually, I didn't go to Refuge last week because Jonathan was talking about love. I know that's sad, but true. Don't worry, he let me have it when he found out I skipped.
I think the reason that it is so hard for me to talk about love is that I have actually experienced love before. Real love. Not the type of love where you say you love each other and then when you break up you go around telling people that your ex is crazy. "Yeah I mean one day we were totally cool, and the next day I found a lock of my hair under his pillow case...." Not that kind. Although, that has happened to me before. Ha ha, just kidding.
Anyway, I experienced the real deal. And honestly, it was heartbreaking when that ended. Right after I started getting discipled I kept feeling like God was telling me to be single. I talked to my mentor and kept praying on it. One saying that is repeated at my church a lot goes like, "Delayed obedience is disobedience." So I knew I needed to go ahead and do it. It was probably one of the hardest things
Since then I started dating my current boyfriend. He's pretty cool. ;) He's had to deal with a lot of baggage because of my past, but he's been really good with me.
One of the things Jonathan mentioned in the podcast (yes, I still had to listen to it... I don't know how I thought I could escape it) was deal breakers. Things that would absolutely never work for you/ they have to have in a relationship. Here are mine:
1) I absolutely cannot be the spiritual leader in a relationship. Whomever I end up marrying has to have a faith that puts mine to shame.
2) They have to love their mama. Mama's boys are a good thing. It shows that they'll treat you with the same respect as their mom. This theory really is true. I have two and a half years worth of experience to prove it.
3) They have to open doors for me. I know this sounds like I'm a major princess, but this is really important. If a guy opens a door for you constantly without you asking, he's very possibly a keeper.
4) I can't deal with cussing. This isn't because I'm sheltered either, I promise! I cuss sometimes too. I'll be the first to admit that. But I feel like it is really disrespectful when guys cuss like a sailor and there are girls around. It lacks class to me.
5) I grew up with alcoholics, so I could really care less for a guy who drinks all the time.
6) Any violent tendencies, and I'm out. I don't care if it's taken out on an inanimate object- that scares me therefore, don't do it.
boom. Done with the love talk. Listen to the podcast! It's pretty good.. even though it pained me to listen to it.