"I'm just going through my Terrible Twenties"
Thursday night at Refuge Jonathan started a series called Bookmark. This series focuses on our twenties and how influential a time period it is.The question that seems to be asked constantly in this series is, "If this huge chunk of time is so important, why has this generation been given a 'Get-out-of-jail-free Card' when it comes to spending our time doing careless, stupid things with it?" The twenties used to be a time period when teenagers became adults. It was a time to sink or swim and get out into the world.
Whenever I think of the stereotypical life of an early twenty year old I think of the Jersey Shore cast (who are actually well past their early twenties). You can laugh at how sad it is that I picture that when I think of the typical twenty year old's lifestyle. Most people are probably familiar with the show, but if you aren't I'll fill you in. The whole premise of this reality show is for a group of about 7 people to live in a house and spend every day of their Summer partying on the Jersey Shore. I am not going to lie to you, I have probably watched almost every single episode of it. This crazy lifestyle is glamorized. These 7 random people got their own reality show for simply going out and partying.
... And this is what I feel like most people expect out of our generation. Why is there a blind eye turned when it comes to your behavior in your twenties? Have we really lowered the expectations for this generation that much, that it is accepted for us to waste our lives away?
Here's the thing. I don't think we as a whole have lowered the standards. I think that it has been commercialized, therefore generalizing our age group. I think there are plenty of us who want to go out and have fun every night, but there are others still trying to figure out what this time period means for our lives. For those people, this series is right up your alley.
This series kind of breaks down the major decisions and choices that the average twenty-something year old has to make. Since this series is forcing me to look ahead on all of these decisions, I decided to look back on some of the big decisions that I have had to make leading up to my twenties. Maybe one day I'll even be able to come back to this blog and see how the following decisions are still continuing to affect me and how God has used them in my life.
-P.s, Future Me, if you are thirty years old and still play World of Warcraft this series obviously didn't teach you anything, and you should look back over some of the lessons.
Ok here we go:
1) College. Confession time. Yes, as I said in my first blog post I stayed in Memphis for college because it was the only financially smart thing to do; but it was also because of.... a boy. SHHH! I know, I know. "Holly what were you thinking, missing out on a college you wanted to go to because of a boy?" Well, honestly I didn't really feel like I missed out on anything. Besides, even though it didn't work out, where would I be if I hadn't gone to Memphis?
2) Moving out. This decision only happened in the past 6 months, but it was still a pretty large step. I always had a reasonable amount of independence as a teenager. My mom worked all the time, so after I got my first car I had a pretty substantial amount of freedom. I got my first job shortly after I got my car and started paying bills on it. Because of how much responsibility I had earlier on in my teenage years, moving out seemed like just another step I was supposed to take. The housing situation I came into just kind of fell into my lap, so when we first moved in I didn't know any of my roommates particularly well. Now they are my best friends. To say that God didn't have any part in everything I've experienced and learned here in this house would be delusional.
3) Dating. In this department I have made some really good decisions and some really bad ones. I dated one guy for 2.5 years, and a few before him. Before the two and a half year relationship, most of the guys I dated were looking for something. Mainly one thing specifically. Even though that long relationship didn't work out, I really learned a lot from it. I learned what it meant to tell someone you love them and how to outwardly show it. I kind of learned how I was supposed to show love my Christian family through it. Not in a holding hands, arm stroking kind of way, though. Just in an uplifting, accepting type of way. Don't get weird, guys.
So there you go. Just a few things that came to mind as I was writing this blog.
There will probably be more to come as the series goes on. There's also a podcast of the sermon from Thursday if you want to listen to it. It's good stuff and it's uploaded every week so, make one of those choices we've been talking about and go listen! Like that plug, Jonathan?